Domestic Violence?

Is domestic violence only one time or is it if you do it once you are going to do it again? What provokes the batterer? Lifestyle, financial status, depression etcc….

Domestic Violence is often about control. The batterer may be insecure, drunk, high, angry or mentally ill. But the main reason seems his (or her) desire to exercise control over the other person. Control can take the form of physical assault, sexual assault, threatening, property damage (punching the hole in the wall, smashing the telephone), false imprisonment, breaking and entering into the other person’s privacy, etc. It is not a question whether the batterer is provoked. That question assumes that the other person is somehow responsible. True domestic violence is not an abberation. It is constant so that the abuser will offend any time he (or she) senses a loss of control. There are some excellent counseling programs available for people who may be perpetrators of domestic violence. Often the whole scenerio can be categorized in the form of a cycle that repeats itself. The abuse is followed by remorse, foregiveness, peace, then more abuse. The cycle needs to be stopped. Effective counseling is a good way to go.